The Clear Horizon

From oblivion of alcoholism into the light of sobriety

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  • Confrontation and being confronted – The Middle of Things

    I love complicated headlines. What is it about? Well, I am a social worker and in my company we work with a concept called “confrontative pedagogy”, which in the end is nothing more than confronting clients with their responsibility and their actions but also with the resources and their potential to work out solutions for… Read more

  • Most disturbing personal Horror

    Sometimes diving too deep into the Rabbit Hole has something in stock that’s really messing up and shaking the very foundations of my resilience systems. Not in terms of falling back into toxic habit loops or alcohol abuse, but something that keeps my psyche on its toes for longer than I would like to: Bad… Read more

  • How the death of my uncle offers a quantum of solace

    This is a pretty personal note on an incident that just happened recently: My uncle died, and although he wasn’t that close to me and my grief has its frontiers, it has a couple of implications about my own finiteness of life. First of all, I am in a current state of reevaluating and restructuring… Read more

  • Parental expectations, told and untold

    Today I had a podcast interview with two awesome guys from a German Sobriety Podcast, and the topic was, of course, about my alcohol abuse and the way into recovery. There was one topic touched upon, which echoes still in my system which I find worth mentioning: Expectations my parents had in me. Even if… Read more

  • Evidence for sustainable Self efficacy

    I have been pondering on this issue for a while now, and up until now, I could only get a grasp on self efficacy in terms of short lived response and reward (feeling good with a rush of dopamine and then slowly bounce back (ideally) into a state of balanced emotional state for a while).… Read more

  • Materialism

    Your worth in this world is more or less measured by your value. That is – mostly, at least in capitalist oriented societies – a reality: You are what you own. Success is something measured by wealth. At least that is something we tend to believe. I don’t want to discuss political or societal philosophies… Read more

  • Should we cry more? Cont‘d

    I finally mustered the courage to do it. So: Until next time, take one step at a time and don’t lose the faith in yourself. Read more

  • Identity and actions … and habits

    “We are what we do.” or “We are what we live by.” What sounds a bit like some calendar truism has actually an actual truth in it., at least for me. In the end, we might adopt a version of what others see in us as the definition of our identity. But is this what… Read more

  • Next Level authenticity

    Well, it’s not only about authenticity, but authenticity makes the most important aspect of the next stage of my recovery journey. Authenticity does not mean to me that I need an excuse to be rude to people by saying them exactly what I think or that I am declining anything that doesn’t suit my needs.… Read more

  • How to deal with people you don’t want in your sober life anymore – and vice versa.

    There were those days I thought I needed to be friendly, to be everybody’s darling, to please everybody. Yes, there were times when I thought I needed to make a large circle of “friends” on social media. Boy, the times have changed. I always thought it was due to Covid that I had reduced social… Read more