The Clear Horizon

From oblivion of alcoholism into the light of sobriety

life

  • How Winter deceived me – or did it actually…?

    I can remember the times when I used to blame everything on anybody or everything that felt fit to be standing in my way of success: I blamed my job and the injustice inflicted to me by others, so I had a reason to drink. I blamed my bad mood on my wife and kids,… Read more

  • What Goals do I still need to pursue? Is it really goals?

    This is the second half of the two part post I started yesterday. And today I’d like to tackle the question, goal or way? Meaning: Is/are there final goals I should achieve in the end? Or is it more about the way I need to go along and learn en route? This is not so… Read more

  • Toxic Self optimization – why it contributes to bad self esteem

    It seems I am coming back to a lot of aspects I touched upon before. I am sorry if that feels erratic, but I feel the need to share my reflection on toxic self optimization once again. All the good advice and lifestyle books come with very good ideas, but they come with a couple… Read more

  • Should we cry more? Cont‘d

    I finally mustered the courage to do it. So: Until next time, take one step at a time and don’t lose the faith in yourself. Read more

  • End of Feb reflection – When is a good intention a bad intention?

    February has ended, and the question is: how did I fate with a good intention over a month’s span? It’s interesting how a good intention that feels very sensible and motivating can become a hassle, because you think you are still motivated to fulfill the good intention but in the end, the whole idea starts… Read more

  • Why being nasty sometimes feels very good

    Okay. Actually, the heading is pretty click-baity, but there is a certain truth in the statement which I wanted to elaborate on a bit. The situation was that I needed to make my way through a one way and a car blocked my way and the driver talked to the passengers who just exited the… Read more

  • Art therapy against aggression and procrastination

    There are a lot of things that have crossed my mind since I have reduced or respectively omitted digital devices when I decided to go for a Handsfree February. I wondered in the beginning of the month what I would do with the spare time. It was a bit different when I stopped drinking, because… Read more

  • Authenticity, Transperency and Identity = Self esteem and resilience

    If you have a déjà vu about the topic, maybe. Sometimes there are conjunctions and connections in the path that suddenly pop up, need to be refined or deserve another look. I just realized that the connection of being authentic, transparent and when I am in line with my activities/habits and my identity, that this… Read more

  • Identity and actions … and habits

    “We are what we do.” or “We are what we live by.” What sounds a bit like some calendar truism has actually an actual truth in it., at least for me. In the end, we might adopt a version of what others see in us as the definition of our identity. But is this what… Read more

  • While I am in the Rabbit hole, what else might be down here?

    Ok, back into the rabbit hole. I am not actually sure if I really want to dig that deep into the rabbit hole, since there might be aspects that I would rather have sleeping until the dusk of time. But since it is all about the “Hauptmeise” (main tit (the bird!!!), better translation would be:… Read more