The Clear Horizon

From oblivion of alcoholism into the light of sobriety

life

  • Intrinsic and extrinsic Motivation – When does it get problematic?

    I definitely touched upon the topic habits and when they might be or become toxic. What I didn’t do, I think, was deal with the aspect of motivation, as to why, I actually pursue certain habits and actions, and in how far the individual pursuit of “good” habits is intrinsic, extrinsic, and when either is… Read more

  • Recap of 6 months of cutting back and quitting – what are my takeaways from the past for the next 6 months (+)

    Although it has not been 6 full months of complete sobriety, the beginning of my journey started actually with cutting back (severely) on my drinking. In this post, I will have a look at the quantitative and qualitative aspects of my recovery journey and what implications the results of this recap have for my future… Read more

  • Materialism

    Your worth in this world is more or less measured by your value. That is – mostly, at least in capitalist oriented societies – a reality: You are what you own. Success is something measured by wealth. At least that is something we tend to believe. I don’t want to discuss political or societal philosophies… Read more

  • Why it gets easier with the Right mindset (Updated Repost)

    Interestingly, I have saved a post draft with his headline for a completely different topic weeks ago. That nicely shows me after a longer time of dealing with different topics, how processes, ideas and, yes, mindsets change. It is easier with the right mindset. Now, I will use this post to get into two aspects:… Read more

  • How Winter deceived me – or did it actually…?

    I can remember the times when I used to blame everything on anybody or everything that felt fit to be standing in my way of success: I blamed my job and the injustice inflicted to me by others, so I had a reason to drink. I blamed my bad mood on my wife and kids,… Read more

  • What Goals do I still need to pursue? Is it really goals?

    This is the second half of the two part post I started yesterday. And today I’d like to tackle the question, goal or way? Meaning: Is/are there final goals I should achieve in the end? Or is it more about the way I need to go along and learn en route? This is not so… Read more

  • Toxic Self optimization – why it contributes to bad self esteem

    It seems I am coming back to a lot of aspects I touched upon before. I am sorry if that feels erratic, but I feel the need to share my reflection on toxic self optimization once again. All the good advice and lifestyle books come with very good ideas, but they come with a couple… Read more

  • Should we cry more? Cont‘d

    I finally mustered the courage to do it. So: Until next time, take one step at a time and don’t lose the faith in yourself. Read more

  • End of Feb reflection – When is a good intention a bad intention?

    February has ended, and the question is: how did I fate with a good intention over a month’s span? It’s interesting how a good intention that feels very sensible and motivating can become a hassle, because you think you are still motivated to fulfill the good intention but in the end, the whole idea starts… Read more

  • Why being nasty sometimes feels very good

    Okay. Actually, the heading is pretty click-baity, but there is a certain truth in the statement which I wanted to elaborate on a bit. The situation was that I needed to make my way through a one way and a car blocked my way and the driver talked to the passengers who just exited the… Read more