The Clear Horizon

From oblivion of alcoholism into the light of sobriety

personal-development

  • What Goals do I still need to pursue? Is it really goals?

    This is the second half of the two part post I started yesterday. And today I’d like to tackle the question, goal or way? Meaning: Is/are there final goals I should achieve in the end? Or is it more about the way I need to go along and learn en route? This is not so… Read more

  • Toxic Self optimization – why it contributes to bad self esteem

    It seems I am coming back to a lot of aspects I touched upon before. I am sorry if that feels erratic, but I feel the need to share my reflection on toxic self optimization once again. All the good advice and lifestyle books come with very good ideas, but they come with a couple… Read more

  • Authenticity, Transperency and Identity = Self esteem and resilience

    If you have a déjà vu about the topic, maybe. Sometimes there are conjunctions and connections in the path that suddenly pop up, need to be refined or deserve another look. I just realized that the connection of being authentic, transparent and when I am in line with my activities/habits and my identity, that this… Read more

  • Too many good Habits = Overload?

    Good habits is what makes up a good, successful life. I think… I thought. Well, yes. It’s true. But bear in mind the proverb by Paracelsus: The dose makes the poison. When I was in the Pink Cloud I made a had a lot of good intentions I wanted to implement in my life. I… Read more

  • Pink Cloud gone – it has to get worse before it gets better

    The Pink Cloud has gone, and as expected, reality comes down on me with full force. What does that mean for me? Will I fall back into old habits? At the moment I am realizing that urges to substitute alcohol consumption or similar short-term rewarding habits try to get into my habitual system. Here is… Read more

  • Do I always have to make a Failure a success?

    We fail. We stand up. We try again. We fail again. And then? We improve. Recently I listened to my favourite Podcast, and one of the main statements was: “Framing every failure as a success in progress is neo-liberal toxic positivity”. What to make of it? First, I would remove the bias “neo-liberal”, because I… Read more

  • The Great New Year’s Cleanup

    Do I need new New year’s resolution or a renewal of good intentions? And (either way), how sincere are these intentions? I, for my part, have come to the conclusion this year that I do not need new resolutions, because to me it feels like restarting the same old sh*t all over again. It feels… Read more

  • But what if I am proactive and I get stuck…?

    Being proactive is king. But it won’t also be easy to always keep up with your good habits and intentions. Sometimes there will be obstacles in your way. The question will be, how to deal with the obstacles. First, let’s have a look at certain obstacles that may be in your way: This is not… Read more